As a man I am saddened, as a Veteran I am enraged. As an advocate I am torn, as an educator I am frustrated. The recent events at Fort Hood, and the anniversary of my mothers death have effected me in a way that I had not anticipated. With Veterans Day and the launch of OperationPTSD.com November 11^th I was busy scrambling to get everything in order. I knew the pressure was building and I could sense subtle changes in my attitude. As I learn more about how PTSD effects me personally, I have begun to remember facts and details about my own experiences. These are not pleasant and I will not post the specifics of these facts because I do not want to unintentionally trigger a PTSD response in someone else. I did not realize that it was possible for me to completely forget details of events that were so intensely a part of my life experience. Now I am not sure I want to recall that information and I am caught in the crossfire, between the desire to understand and the fear of that understanding.

     The reality of death began for me when I discovered my Mom dead in her car after her suicide. I spent several minutes with her alone before the emergency personnel showed up. I can recall just a few images from those moments although I have tried to remember as much as possible. I never really mourned her death, and I still don't know how to go about it. I can tell the story of that day without emotion for the most part and have done it so many times I couldn't begin to count. That day was a turning point for me, the day the finality of death became an intimate piece of knowledge to my young mind. Except for the few people that approached me to express their condolences I was able to almost completely block the reality of the event from my conscious mind. Soon afterward I began to fear the loss of my father. I would jerk awake in a pool of sweat, thinking I heard his car running in the garage. That would send me running downstairs to the garage to check and see if his car was actually running. I would not be satisfied until I put my hand on the exhaust pipe to feel if it was hot. I was afraid to talk to him about it, I was developing my own stigma. I didn't want him to see my fear because that seemed weak in the context of our relationship.

     When I arrived at boot camp, I was anticipating the Navy being a serious undertaking. Almost immediately, the importance of attention to detail was re-enforced with the statement "When mistakes are made people will die." I didn't really connect the thought of an accidental death or even an act of military aggression to my Mom's suicide. I just knew that I was not going to be the one that allowed my actions or lack of actions to be what caused the death of another member of my unit. My subconscious was much more aware of the connection. Initially when I was involved in a situation that had lethal consequences I would get a rush of adrenalin and feel a somewhat pleasant high, with a strange underlying dread. Eventually that dread faded and I functioned as if I were a nonliving being. Each day the same, each situation similar, just reacting in a rehearsed fashion with confidence in my training and problem solving ability. I took pride in my ability to remain cold and calculating in my approach to a chaotic situation.

     The events that unfolded at Ft. Hood initially sparked a feeling of calm calculation and a controlled intellectual response. As I sat and watched the news I began to shake internally. Nausea and a noticeable tension in my abdomen began to get my attention. I could feel my heart beating heavily and I could hear the rush of blood in my head. I was frustrated by the slow development of the story and the constant changing information related to the tactical scenario. I was trying to imagine the scene and began to panic because I could not develop a good solution in my head for the situation. That takes me back to my education and the definition of PTSD. The feeling of hopelessness and loss of control of a situation that involves death or the threat of severe harm to ones self or those around you. Classic textbook PTSD occurring with me at a point where I thought I had a good grip on it. Disturbing!

     My greatest fear is that I would fall apart and lose my wife, I try to explain my feelings but its like describing the color blue to a blind man. I consider my wife to be of high intelligence and also having a huge sense of compassion. However, mental illness is a beast that doesn't reveal itself clearly. Its like an insurgent war fought inside my head. What appears to be a normal event to everyone could be a trigger for me. The unknown is hell in my eyes, I can't plan to fight an enemy that I have no solid Intel on. So I focus all of my aggression on the nearest object or situation that presents itself as an adversary. To my wife it makes sense when my aggression falls in line with her perception of a situation and it appears that aggression is appropriate. Otherwise we fight over that gap in perception. I had an idea the other night to try and picture what PTSD would look like through my wife's eyes. I was laying there in the bed just looking at her while she was reading a book. I was trying to think about how she would respond to the emotional cocktail that I feel on a regular basis. I began to get sick, panic attack was eminent. I realized my instinct to defend her would not allow me to mix the thought of her with the hell that is PTSD. I would attack and destroy anything that would cause my wife to feel like that, yet I don't have the ability to defend myself from it. Amazing!

     This week has been a rough one, PTSD has been twisted in the media. I have heard new terms for PTSD and definitions that only vaguely resemble what I have learned through all my research. The incident at Ft. Hood was actually very damaging to the work I do. People jumping to conclusions and a new stigma in the form of what basically amounts to an act of domestic terrorism. I have been degraded in a forum in which I had previously been praised. To the point of not wanting to even use Twitter as a means of advancing the cause of PTSD Veterans. I have even contemplated quitting this entire mission. I am due to launch this organization in less than two days as I face the worst scenario yet since the idea of OperationPTSD occurred to me. Quitting would be easy! What bothers me most is the idea of leaving a Veteran hanging without a safety line. With all this going on, I begin to call a cadence to myself. If the troops can sustain a war on two fronts with multiple deployments I can keep going too. I love my wife and I love this country, so I will continue the quest for PTSD Veterans and me.

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Jason

OperationPTSD

      This is not going to be one of those typical inspirational blog posts that leaves you feeling connected with a warrior who is longing for his life before he experienced the hell of combat. It is an entry of outrage at the state of our society and its priorities. This is for all the PTSD Veterans that live a self imposed exile because of the inability to be around normal places that most take for granted. Its for the PTSD Vet that sits in a room alone contemplating the end of his life because he realizes his situation is not getting better and options are getting few and far between. For the Vet that won't go to bed because of the fear of the nightmares he will certainly face if he does. For all the panic victims and the constant nagging anxiety that prevents life from being normal. For all the relationships that have slipped from the hands of someone that desperately needed a loved one. For those that just can't take it anymore. For us PTSD Vets!

      I am very concerned about the attitude our country has taken in regards to the military members that have sacrificed so much for the freedom we enjoy. Yes, we have made a mess of things. Yet we are free to fix it and go on. The camouflage line is getting thin, we are expending resources that do have an end. America is not brimming with the kind of courageous warriors that we had two generations ago. Sorry if that upsets you, but I do look around as I travel about the country. I know a warrior when I see one and there is damn few of them left. We have become a society of soft and lazy self serving people. Concerned only with the affairs that directly effect us. Only interested if it feels good or will promote the sense of enjoyment. There are people overseas planning to kill us, doesn't it seem prudent to have a very capable fighting force to protect us? I think so, and I happen to know we are sending people into harms way that are ill-equipped to handle the task because they have been compromised already. In addition, we are miserably failing to render aid to the wounded after the dust settles.

      I am really tired of hearing the hollow words "We support our troops." Only to have the pleas for help with PTSD go unanswered. To put it into perspective, imagine this if you will. A small and highly trained group of insurgents begin a reign of terror across this country. Don't think it could happen? Do you remember the DC sniper? Two people held an entire region hostage for days. Who do you think is going to stop a group of 500 terrorist in sleeper cells? It will be the same warriors that have always got it done, and if you skipped the military for partying in college you will not be part of that solution. I know you don't care about the daily struggles of a small fraction of the entire population. However, they cared enough about you to put themselves in a position to lose all their tomorrows for your comfort. PTSD is a terrible reality that is faced by the same warriors that faced our enemies in a land far from here. Is it the distance that makes you feel safe? Or makes you forget what they did? We never forget what we did for this country! We are angry at the treatment we are receiving. Some are in such poor shape they don't even realize it could be different. Some are in prison, and still more living under bridges and in abandoned houses. Some are addicted to drugs and alcohol, while others just give up and die.

     Sound like an angry rant? Not a rant, just reality. Don't like it? Do something about it! Do something for the men that are terrified to go outside in their yards. They remember it being different, that's the sad part. Its not like they lose all sense of reality, PTSD Vets know something is wrong and wish it could be different. They lose their spouses because of their inability to show or receive affection. They lose their jobs because they can't focus on a task. They lose themselves because they can't stand to see what has become of them. WE, because I am one of them, want to love, live and enjoy our families just like you do. Without help that is not what is going to happen in most cases. Please send everyone you know to read this site, education is key. And the stigma which amounts to ignorance in costing us lives everyday. I would like to be focused on healing and stories of success, but without support there is and will be no success.

Jason

OperationPTSD 

     It has been a very eventful past few weeks. I find it interesting to watch the ebb and flow of PTSD in the media and public opinion. Just days before Veterans Day and the official launch of OperationPTSD.com an evil act of domestic terrorism struck home at Fort Hood. That event triggered an interest in PTSD and our military, although I believe it was thrown off course by the fact that speculation raged over the shooter and various unheard of forms of PTSD. I am speaking of Pre-PTSD and Secondary PTSD, neither of which were terms I had heard of in all the years I have dealt with this subject. These were made up by media and uneducated military spokesmen. Now we are calling PTSD "Combat Stress" because the military didn't want to use the term Disorder. Anything and everything they could think of to redirect the focus of fault from themselves. I am not saying the military is to blame for PTSD, it is a result of trauma. Trauma will occur in combat and there is very little that can be done to prevent that from happening. Even the soldiers that operate the unmanned aircraft from remote bases are suffering a high rate of PTSD. My point is the military and government has ignored the problem of psychological distress on soldiers since the beginning. The terms used have evolved from soldiers heart to shell shock to battle fatigue to PTSD and now combat stress.

     The problem is, using the term "combat stress" will require that a soldier be directly involved in combat to meet the inferred definition of that term. Setting us up for another omission of a large group of people eligible for benefits. Lets stick to PTSD, call it what it is. There is no reason to change the term used and by doing so imply a new and unknown definition further complicating the situation. There are thousands of troops that were involved in support of combat operations and never actually fired a weapon that have full blown cases of PTSD. Are they any less entitled to benefits? The answer is obviously NO, however that will not be the case if the military and government are allowed to set policy on the fly. I personally have experienced the "SYSTEM" at work. I filed an application for disability with the VA going on two years ago, and was denied on my initial claim because I didn't have a Combat Action Medal listed in my service record. As a matter of fact I have noticed that my service record is missing several awards that should have been entered but weren't. Getting those added to my record is not an easy process, and just further complicates getting a final rating for PTSD disability.

      On the other side of this equation we have very positive news to relay. In my early days of Twitter I made a few contacts of interest, one in particular is a young lady that works with Soldiers Angels. She is a member of OperationPTSD.com and suffers from non-combat related PTSD. An Author of a book came to her and said he had written a book and would like for a portion of the proceeds to go to organizations helping the troops. She graciously mentioned OperationPTSD.com to him and put us together to discuss the possibility of this venture. I spoke with him yesterday for about an hour while he was traveling to a reading and book signing. He is a former United States Marine that served in Iraq back in 2003 in support of OIF. He kept a detailed journal of his time in Iraq. He endured many struggles and came to a point in his life that he realized PTSD was a reality for him. He decided to write a memoir based upon his journal and it has been nominated for a 2010 non-fiction Pulitzer Prize. This gentleman's name is Eric Cox and his book is titled "CPL Cox." We have come to an agreement that allows OperationPTSD.com to offer the book as a free benefit of a donation to the organization. For each $25.00 dollar donation a free signed copy of "CPL Cox" will be sent to the person or organization making the donation. This is some of the best news OperationPTSD.com has had since the beginning. My hats off to Eric for creating such unique way of supporting those who support our hero's. A little hint, this will not be the last book he will offer. You will have to get the book to know what I mean.

     OperationPTSD.com is evolving. My initial intent was to offer all kinds of services to PTSD Veterans and families. While that is still my long term goal, our short term mission has got to be awareness and education. I was not completely aware of the level of education or actually the lack of education that I witnessed as the Fort Hood tragedy unfolded. I saw everything from misquotes to blatant lies during the days following the incident. If people have the wrong ideas or wrong impression about a subject, then it is hard to get the kind of help needed based on misinformation.

     There are countless clinical seminars and gatherings ongoing all the time. These are geared toward mental health professionals and are not the kind of sessions that bring out the survivors experience in a way we all can appreciate. I am working behind the scenes to create a coalition of advocates to sponsor a survivors conference on PTSD. Where plain English is spoken in place of technical jargon. I want to see all sorts of PTSD survivors there and mental heath professionals as well, so that we as survivors can cut through the BULL surrounding the PTSD community. I would like to challenge all healing practitioners to bring hard numbers to this gathering so transparency can be achieved. There is way too much he said, she said propaganda going on right now. Each group of people claim the best results, while no one is really pulling ahead in the race for a cure. I am not here to be politically motivated, I am not here to be politically correct. I am here to find the answers for our PTSD affected Veterans and civilians alike. I don't mean to be confrontational or argumentative, but I will be if I think the truth can be exposed by doing so. I am for truth and transparency in the care of our Veterans. I advocate, I educate and I defeat stigma. That will be my mission until I have acquired the necessary resources to increase my presence in the PTSD care community. Bottom line, do what you are good at and let others have to freedom to do the same. It will take a massive cooperation to achieve the results we expect and deserve. Be prepared to operate outside of your comfort zone because ground breaking is not for the faint of heart.

Jason

OperationPTSD.com

     It is a great feeling to find what you have been searching for. I have been approached by many individuals and groups to try and advocate various types of PTSD therapies. Some I tried and others I wasn't interested in. I have seen so many that I can't recall all the different methods. The VA is stuck in the old talk therapy and meds routine. YAWN... I have all but given up on the VA as many of my affiliates have. I recently called the VA to ask about a temporary prescription of an anti-depressant to help me out of a period of post-holiday blues. They said it would be three weeks before I could get in to be seen. Since then I have cleared the blues and continued on the road of personal recovery. I have come to the conclusion that there needs to be a three pronged approach to PTSD treatment. I believe that this is an issue that affects the mind, body and spirit. Of course we are all familiar with the problems of the mind, and for those suffering with PTSD you are most certainly aware of the effects on the body. We should not ignore the implications on the spiritual side of this issue.

     I have always proclaimed my faith, but I was hesitant to speak too much about it in the realm of OperationPTSD.com. I did not want to be seen as a religious monger trying to fix PTSD with the Gospel. Its is impossible to deny the impact that faith has on our lives. As the cliché says, "There are no atheists in a foxhole." Cliche's are called that for a reason, small pieces of wisdom that have been recognized over the years as ideas to be heeded. Faith gives us a foundation to stand on as a basis for our own personal identity. I think it is very important to have a starting point for the journey through the healing process. As a child of the most high God, I have my identity established and a promise that I will not be left alone to fight the battles here on earth. I also believe that God uses other people in our lives to help us along the way. He gives each of us a set of skills that we are to develop and use to benefit ourselves and others. He also instructs us to maintain fellowship with other believers so that we may draw strength from them and be in a position to receive the gifts they have been given. That being said, my point is that we must approach the healing process with all the tools and not leave any aspect uncovered as to avoid the pitfalls associated with traditional therapy methods. I am not suggesting that everyone adopt my personal beliefs but find your own place that God has made for you. From there anything is possible.

     As for the body, you cannot expect that you can function properly while neglecting your physical condition. PTSD sufferers have a unique set of challenges that they face on a daily basis. Physically the sleep deprivation, anxiety and stress can make you feel like you are an island unto yourself. Compounding the difficulty of having enough energy to face a difficult journey of personal healing and growth. Eating a balanced and healthy diet, exercise, and avoiding harmful habits is absolutely essential to be in good condition. Failing to do so is putting yourself at a disadvantage from the very beginning. Getting back your life is a decision that must be made with the intention of being committed to a change of lifestyle. I think that is what most PTSD sufferers are looking for, because the typical day in the life of a PTSD sufferer is no walk in the park. We as humans typically don't relish the idea of change. However if you find yourself in the midst of a fire, wouldn't a cool change of scenery be an invitation to expend whatever amount of energy needed to get that done? I am speaking from experience, and I feel it is very important to be upfront and honest about my struggles to set an example for others to learn from.

     I have realized that my reputation is much less important than the benefits I can bring to others. I am very fortunate to have the power of a praying wife at my side, giving me a dose of daily motivation. My success is your success. If you read my last blog entry you are aware that I have had some rough patches in this mission to find a viable treatment for the illness that has consumed my life from the day I was born. As many of you know my father was a Vietnam Vet and drank himself and the rest of my family into oblivion. That is a typical story of someone with PTSD that either fails to be recognized or chooses to remain undiagnosed and untreated.

     I am working closely with a few select organizations and people to get a comprehensive program developed for mind, body and spirit. One of the most exciting aspects of this work is the new relationship that has developed with Great Life Technologies in Southern California. They have created a PTSD program that has my full attention. Their program is a non-invasive, non medicated and in home program that is supervised by a trained coach to optimize results. Consults are done by phone.

     Results of the initial data and ongoing treatment data are being compiled and monitored by the University of Texas at Austin. This program teaches each person how to address each symptom of PTSD and brings resolution in an incredibly short period of time. This is the exciting part, it puts the healing process in the hands of sufferer. No longer dependent on a therapist or a system of therapists that are not flexible in scheduling. It allows the individual to deal with any issues as they occur. That is very empowering and encouraging for someone that sufferers daily. I have had very noticeable improvements in my battle with anxiety, anger and clarity. My wife is also going through the program and has commented on how wonderful it is to be able to clear anger issues as they occur. This gives her the ability to help me and not be caught in the circle of empathy loss.

     I had the privilege to participate in a teleconference with Great Life Technologies and NotAlone.com a few weeks ago. During the conference I was able to hear from several Vets that are going through the program. Interestingly, there was a Vet from each of the wars since Vietnam represented. The overall message was that this program was a profound success. Not one of the Vets I heard from had a downside to speak of. Each of their stories were different as each of us are. This program was developed to help trauma victims resolve internal conflicts and has proved to be exceptionally beneficial to PTSD sufferers. The director Tom Stone has written books on these techniques that will be available on OperationPTSD.com in the very near future. They also put on seminars regularly that can be attended. My goal is to go to a certification seminar and become a PTSD and life coach. There are not many aspects of suffering associated with PTSD that I don't understand. I have been both the sufferer and the loved one of a sufferer. I have spent my life wondering why I had gone through all the things that I have, now I know. It is my mission to help other people that are going through their darkest hours. We didn't get in the position we are in overnight and getting resolution will not be an overnight endeavor. However, healing can be measured in months rather than years as one of the Vets told me after he had been in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for over 15 years with limited results.

     I need to raise $2000.00 dollars to attend this certification in California. I would like to offer any donor free sessions in exchange and in gratitude for helping me help others. If you would like to donate but don't know anyone suffering I have a list of people that would be grateful for the therapy and would make the introduction between the two of you so that you could see who and how you helped a specific person improve their life. All donations can be made on the PayPal donation button on the home page of this website. Thank you for your support and I look forward to bringing together a comprehensive program of healing for mind, body and spirit.

All the Best,

Jason Ream

OperationPTSD.com

 Rules for kicking ass
>
> Make sure you read #12
>
> Dear Civilians, 'We know that the current state of affairs in our great
> nation has many civilians up in arms and excited to join the military.
>
> For those of you who can't join, you can still lend a hand. Here are a
> few of the areas where we would like your assistance:
>
> 1. The next time you see any adults talking (or wearing a hat) during
> the playing of the National Anthem - kick their ass.
>
> 2.. When you witness, firsthand, someone burning the American Flag in
> protest - kick their ass..
>
> 3. Regardless of the rank they held while they served, pay the highest
> amount of respect to all veterans. If you see anyone doing otherwise,
> quietly pull them aside and explain how these veterans fought for the
> very freedom they bask in every second. Enlighten them on the many
> sacrifices these veterans made to make this Nation great. Then hold them
> down while a disabled veteran kicks their ass..
>
> 4. If you were never in the military, DO NOT pretend that you were..
> Wearing battle dress uniforms (BDUs) or Jungle Fatigues, telling others
> that you used to be 'Special Forces'. Collecting GI Joe memorabilia
> might have been okay when you were seven years old, now, it will only
> make you look stupid and get your ass kicked.
>
> 5. Next time you come across an *Air Force* member, do not ask them, 'Do
> you fly a jet?' Not everyone in the Air Force is a pilot. Such ignorance
> deserves an ass-kicking (children are exempt).
>
> 6. If you witness someone calling the *US Coast Guard* 'non-military',
> inform them of their mistake - and kick their ass..
>
> 7. Next time Old Glory (the  US flag) prances by during a parade, get on
> your damn feet and pay homage to her by placing your hand over your
> heart. Quietly thank the military member or veteran lucky enough to be
> carrying her - of course, failure to do either of those could earn you a
> severe ass-kicking.
>
> 8. 'Your mama wears combat boots' never made sense to me - stop saying
> it! If she did, she would most likely be a vet and therefore would kick
> your ass!
>
> 9. Bin Laden and the Taliban are not Communists, so stop saying 'Let's
> go kill those Commies !' And stop asking us where he is! Crystal balls
> are not standard issue in the military. That reminds me - if you see
> anyone calling those damn psychic phone numbers, let me know, so I can
> go kick their ass!
>
> 10. 'Flyboy' (*Air Force*), 'Jarhead' (*Marines*), 'Grunt' (*Army*),
> 'Squid' (*Navy*), 'Puddle Jumpers' (*Coast Guard*), etc., are terms of
> endearment we use describing each other. Unless you are a service member
> or vet, you have not earned the right to use them. Using them could get
> your ass kicked.
>
> 11. Last, but not least, whether or not you become a member of the
> military, support our troops and their families.. Every Thanksgiving and
> religious holiday that you enjoy with family and friends, please
> remember that there are literally thousands of soldiers, sailors,
> marines and airmen far from home wishing they could be with their
> families. Thank God for our military and the sacrifices they make every
> day. Without them, our Country would get it's ass kicked.
>
>
> 'It's the Veteran, not the reporter, who has given us the freedom of the
> press.'
>
> 'It's the Veteran, not the poet, who has given us the freedom of
> speech.'
>
> 'It's the Veteran, not the community organizer, who gives us the freedom
> to demonstrate.'
>
> 'It's the Military who salutes the flag, who serves  beneath the flag,
> and whose coffin is draped by the flag, who allows the protester to burn
> the flag.'
>
> AND ONE MORE:
>
> 12. If you ever see anyone either standing for or singing the national
> anthem in Spanish - KICK THEIR ASS!
>

Multiply the Joy, Divide the Sorrow

Written by Jason on October 12th, 2009

     As I sit here sorting through the thousands of thoughts that flood my mind when I begin to write a message to my fellow Veterans. I try to choose my words carefully and make sure that everything I say is kept within the boundaries of the highest respect. Not because I am afraid of insulting my brothers, we do that as a show of camaraderie. I do it because I want them to realize that I will not cast judgement on them for any reason. I have read many articles in the past few days about active duty troops and their struggles with PTSD and TBI. I have read that it is frowned upon to consider seeking help for PTSD. This disturbs me to the point of anger. Yes, it takes a special breed of person to go into battle and perform at such a high level. Yes, there is a certain sense of hardness that needs to be exerted while in such a situation. Been there, done that, stayed the night and walked home! Just as it is said that apologizing for a wrong makes you a bigger and better person, it is the same principle in reaching out for help. Would a smart soldier compromise himself and others by neglecting his weapon? I think not! So why would you want to compromise yourself and your fellow soldiers, sailors or airmen by neglecting your greatest weapon on the battlefield?

     Few things evoked a more emotional response to me and my fellow servicemen than our families. I have a unique love for my fellow Veterans because my family is gone. If you have kept up with my previous entries you know my father shot himself as a result of PTSD. Don't you think I would like to have my dad back? You bet I would, I was 25 years old when he died and there was a tremendous amount of experience yet to be passed on. Too little, too late! Don't be that guy! Obviously, if you have PTSD you have been in some kind of hardcore situation that made a huge impression on your brain. Now that being said, complete the mission by ensuring that you are fully "Good to GO" by getting screened and treated by a professional.

     The latest information I have read is that somewhere in the neighborhood of 120 of our finest are killing themselves every day. PTSD is no joke! This will kill you if you allow it to. The key being IF YOU ALLOW IT! You are in control by having the choice to get the help. If you choose not to get the help you forfeit control and you open yourself up to all the horrors that is PTSD. Nightmares, anxiety, anger, loss of self esteem, addiction, suicide and much more! I have walked hand in hand with all the things I just listed. If I said, "don't stick a fork in the toaster." Would you really need to ask why? Being a United States Military Veteran makes you a member of an elite group of people, the kind of people this world needs and wants. Be a Veteran not a statistic!

     I am trying to plant the seed of healing. This seed will grow into the tree of life for us as Veterans. I can only represent one branch on that tree. I need each of you to help me care for each other. Together we will make that a tree that stands for freedom and liberty. If we are not healthy we are not free. I am sitting here fighting a battle 17 years after is signed my DD214. Not because I have to, but because I care about each and every one of you. That my brothers and sisters is respect. Pay it forward or pay it back. I choose my words carefully, you choose your actions with the same care and before you know it PTSD and all that it is will be gone. What will remain will be a proud legacy we all can share as America's hero's. Together we can multiply the joy and divide the sorrow!

Go do it!

Jason

OperationPTSD

Beyond the Stigma

     First off, my inspiration for this blog post was initiated by reading another authors post about a relationship with a friend that passed away before her time, and the conversation that ensued between my wife and I. As I have stated before, I lost both of my parents to suicide. My Mom was first, I lost her at the age of 13. I have yet to completely wrap my head around that. I was told by my father after her death to lower a shoulder and power on. My desire in life is and has been to be a man. Not just any man but a power player. So I did as he told me and compartmentalized my grief and turned to face my next challenge. There were many, and I thought my job was to absorb them with as little outward expression of pain as possible. I was being hurt and the little boy inside me knew it. No pain, no gain right? Or how about, "Pain is weakness leaving your body?" All a false illusion of my bad-ass complex! Which was by proxy my Fathers bad-ass complex. Did I mention he was suffering from PTSD due to Vietnam? Begin mission impossible, making a 13 year old boy as tough as a Vietnam Veteran. Because that was my yard stick I intended on measuring myself with.

     I believe I began a life of dual self images when my Mom died. On one hand I was a young boy trying to find my place and on the other a warrior in training. Through the rest of my life that little boy has never really gone away. I can summon that person almost at will. However, that child has become somewhat distorted by life events and trauma due to my burning desire to be this mountain of a man. I have always been competitive, fiercely so! As I got older and the stakes got higher, I realized that the person who would be willing to go farther toward the edge of no return would win. I have never appreciated playing the game, I am only interested in the win. I figured rules in games were made by people who didn't like being dominated. The ends always justified the means. I began to live my life with that motto. I would go longer, farther, faster and harder than anyone I knew. Sounded like a recipe for success I thought. I was becoming a predator. Part of me loved it, I had a hunger for something. I needed to feed that hunger, so I descended into a world of violence seeking and self sacrifice in order to find that primitive essence of manhood.

     I thought the more I hurt that child inside me the better my training for manhood was progressing. For some reason I was still scared sometimes of the situations I found myself in. Then I heard someone say that "Courage is not the absence of fear, but a measure of your actions in the face of fear." Well that was perfect for me, I could justify my fear and force myself to face whatever came along. Not just face it, but seek fear and force myself to engage and conquer it. The little boy continued to suffer. At 19 years old I was getting to be a handful for most anyone to handle. I had been in the far east for over a year and had seen and done some pretty intense things. I mean intense even by my definition of the term. I came home on leave and my Father being who he was recognized that edge I was carrying. He got drunk and decided to test the waters with me. Sadly, even though he had abused me and my Mom for years, I delivered a beating that the UFC would have been proud of. A beating that would haunt me for years. Hero's are hero's for a reason, it is very inappropriate to engage your hero in an act of violence! I can't possibly describe what that did to the child inside me.

     I think my Father thought I got lucky in the exchange. He didn't realize I had been planning that beat down since the days of him torturing me with the notion that he was friends with the monsters that lived under my bed and he could ask them to attack me if he wanted to. I spent countless nights laying completely still and quiet believing that the monsters wouldn't get me if I didn't give away my position. That to me was weakness and I wanted to purge myself of it. Due to his alcoholism, we would face each other several more times with similar results all the way up to 1995 when he took his own life. Now that my yardstick had fallen, I needed a new goal. I found that goal many times in the form of an overconfident and undertrained individual looking to prove his worth. I was a predator, no question!

     As I have matured beyond those days I have realized that I wasn't really a man, but a childish predator. I had totally missed the mark! Was I mean? Certainly! Was I capable of hurting people? Absolutely! Was I damaged? Without a doubt! Its time to transcend the realm of predator and move on to the original goal of manhood. PTSD was my wake up call. What will be your wake up call? Think your a bad-ass? Be glad we didn't meet a few years ago, I would have considered you an obstacle to be conquered. Now my goal is to heal and nurture my inner child and rest my inner predator. If you are willing I would like to help you do the same. A real man is neither a child nor a predator. I have come to realize, its somewhere in the middle. I am still capable of both, I can laugh and giggle with my wife like a little boy, and take out an intruder with absolute bad intentions.

     Pain is an indication of something that requires your attention. A little pain is a normal part of growth. Intense pain is an indication of damage. Results of intense physical pain usually have visible scars. If the scars of emotional pain become visible then it is time to look inward and evaluate your condition. I am beyond the stigma, no one can tell me I am weak. I have scars from emotional trauma and I am so relieved to finally know what it is. I can use that same determination to push things to the edge for a greater purpose. Finally embracing my dream of manhood. Are you ready to make that claim? If so, lets bring about change together and bring others along as we go. Stigma meet my inner predator!

Jason
OperationPTSD

Dreams Become Reality

Written by Jason on October 20th, 2009

     We are rapidly approaching our launch date of November 11th.  Although we have already become very active in our mission.  I want to share with you my ideas concerning the future of OperationPTSD.org.  Awareness is key, I believe that more people are aware of PTSD now than ever before.  What I find amazing however is the lack of knowledge of what this illness really is and how it effects all of us.  When I say awareness I don't mean that everyone should be aware of the fact that PTSD is common amongst 35% of returning combat Veterans.  That is a good starting point but it is still a very vague description of the actual effect of PTSD.  We are all aware of how dangerous it is to have unprotected sex in this day and age.  Why is that?  Because of the lack of initial awareness of the dangers it posed to everyone.  Disease has had the chance to spread through the uneducated masses and now poses a threat to all of us.  PTSD is having the same effect and unless we decide to not only educate ourselves but those around us it will continue to destroy lives. 

     If you follow OperationPTSD then you are well aware of Zane and his story.  When this situation first came to my attention, I immediately started to scramble and figure out what resources I had to aide Zane and Jessica.  I left an email out on my desk that I had printed for reference while preparing other emails to people I thought could help.  My wife got up early the next morning to check her email and found the letter.  She read it and had a very strong reaction to it.  She realized she had been in a relationship 20 some years ago and it broke up due to PTSD.  The letter was Jessica's plea for help.  Immediately my wife was able to associate her story to the story Jessica was telling.  She was absolutely floored and in a panic to help Zane and Jessica, because she didn't want to see another person suffer as she had from her experience.  I am quite proud of the fact that I am in a position to do the job that I am doing.  I share that with almost everyone I spend any time with.  Each time I share that information I am almost always on the receiving end of a story with a similar theme.  PTSD is already in the lives of people we all know.  Its already here and its been here for quite some time.  It is time to be aware of it, the disease has already spread. 

    That brings me to the second most important part of OperationPTSD, education.  This disorder occurs through so many pathways.  Combat, domestic violence, sexual assault, natural disasters, car wrecks, violent crime, terrorism and many more ways depending on how the individual sees the situation.  With that being said, 35% of returning troops from combat action is actually a small percentage of the population that is suffering.  PTSD can result in very unpredictable circumstances in all of our personal relationships.  Most people who are effected by PTSD will initially recluse into a world of their own leaving everyone around them searching for answers.  In order to find those answers we need a knowledge base to start from.  We need to become aware of the warning signs and be ready to take action to break the cycle.  I wont go into all of that in this post because it is not my intention to lecture on the signs and symptoms of PTSD at the present moment.  I am trying to engage everyone in the idea of paying attention to the topic and seeking the answers at your discretion.

    Ask yourself, What can I do to enhance awareness and find the education I need?  First of all, we need to get through to the media.  We need to encourage them to investigate and find the answers and report them to the masses.  I am available to be consulted, our organization is available to educate everyone.  If each person who reads this article would email their news channels and newspapers requesting they contact us for a story we could reach millions of people and get the word out quickly.  Not only will that spark interest in the media but it will force the government to start acting and passing legislation to support research and treatment options for all sufferers.  My focus is primarily the male combat Veterans, my associate Mac is working closely with a women's organization to promote awareness for their cause.  I am more comfortable with the male combat Veterans because I feel I can relate to them in a very direct way and provide more instant options for them.  In no way am I trying to down play the role of PTSD on any other demographic, in fact by exposing PTSD in Veterans I hope to cause awareness for all sufferers.

   Bottom line, we need your help in generating the traffic and interest to the plite of PTSD sufferers.  Take some action of your own and we will be glad to start a section in our website dedicated to the people who had the initiative to do some outreach of their own.  This is a business of hero's, and you don't have to be a combat Veteran to be a hero.  I hear from people all the time asking what they can do to help.  Contact your local media and get them in touch with us so we can start a massive education campaign.  Remember, its all about the troops for us, but everyone stands to gain by hearing this message.  Okay, go do it! 

Jason

OperationPTSD

The Enemy or is it The In me?

Written by Jason on October 12th, 2009

After attending a VA group therapy session for PTSD Veterans from OIF and OEF. I realized what a lack of basic PTSD knowledge exists among the Veterans suffering from PTSD. Knowledge is key when attempting to engage any problem. A primary element in any military operation is intelligence. You must know the location, and scale of the enemy you intend to engage. I sat among 5 young men ranging in age from 25 to 29. They were all of above average intelligence, but clearly not aware of the effects of PTSD as an illness. Why is the VA not doing more to educate these Veterans? After sitting quietly and observing them for about thirty minutes and listening to them tell stories of suffering from rage, followed by depression and then turning to alcohol or other substances to cope.

     I started to speak. I was a little angry myself, angry that these men had been coming to this same meeting every two weeks for months on end to rehash the same old tired stories from the week previous. They had learned nothing to help them battle back against the cause of their constant cycles. I asked if they knew the definition of insanity. I explained that doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result was insanity. They seemed shocked that I would take a firm tone with them and offer something other than a victims perspective. I asked if they had any ideas about how to deal with everyday issues they faced. No response! I saw warriors staring at the floor, lost and without any idea of where to start.

     When I was on active duty, the Navy always had a \"Plan of the day\" and it provided everyone with a specific set of goals to accomplish for that day. What a novel idea!  Setting a goal and working toward it. One of the main issues they had been dealing with was the lack of clarity in the morning to decide what to do with themselves all day. They would end up sleeping half the day and then be angry with themselves for not being successful. Then get depressed and turn to substance abuse to cope. Rinse and repeat.

   I was not shocked to hear this, because I have done it for years. And all the while under VA care for PTSD. Imagine that! I told them it would continue until THEY decided to do something different. I suggested they sit down and write themselves a \"Plan of the day\" so that they could have a guideline to follow. Wake up and follow the plan! If you can read you can accomplish goals by applying this very basic technique. Accomplishments were the one bright spot in our conversation. The only time I saw a twinkle in the eyes of these men was while they described an accomplishment. They all said that periods in their lives when things seemed better was triggered by some sort of success.

     Okay, that being said, lets formulate a plan to bring success. Starting with goal setting. Most people don\'t plan to fail, they fail to plan. One very simple way to reverse the negative cycle. Make a plan. Train your mind and your ass will follow!
Don\'t plan to conquer the world, make a plan you are comfortable executing. Do it everyday and gain momentum. Allow yourself room to make mistakes and allow your momentum to propel you to greater goals. Feed off of success and not failure.

   Education is key. I saw some enthusiasm at the end of the meeting and they asked if I planned on returning for the next meeting. I told them I would put it in my \"Plan of the day.\" In a very brief amount of time we had come up with a viable solution to a very big issue. Now my main problem is outreach. I am limited to the amount of people I can educate because I have a capital issue. I need the funds to start a much, much larger outreach. I need your help. I need to educate more people and motivate them to send more people to me for that education. I am living off of disability for a shoulder injury that has ended my ability to earn a living the way I always have. So I decided to change my plan from building things to rebuilding lives.

     Help me help other Veterans and their families. My wife has agreed to shift her career focus to helping the wives and family members of Veterans with PTSD. With your support we can set larger goals and gain momentum. Corporate money is the goal but that will be accomplished only with a track record. For now individual support is crucial. The troops need to shift their focus from the \"Enemy to the In Me.\" Education will give them the tools to make that shift. If you wish to make a donation, contact me at the e-mail provided on the sidebar. Or if you know of a place I could go and speak to a large group of Veterans I would be happy to come and do that!

Jason

OperationPTSD

STIGMA!!!!

Written by Jason on October 13th, 2009

     After talking to a few OIF and OEF Veterans I have come to realize that there is a huge amount of pressure and harassment taking place among those who are still active concerning PTSD.  Not only from peers but also from the upper chain of command.  I can't begin to say how frustrating and depressing this is.  Somehow, some way this has got to stop.  I can only imagine what it must feel like to be suffering from PTSD and be in a combat situation and try to ignore the symptoms.  Being on active duty is a demanding and rigorous activity, sleep is never what it should be.  Then you combine that with nightmares and sleep deprivation, its a perfect cocktail for a person to snap.  Do we really want our troops to be literally sleeping with the enemy?  Its hard to imagine, but sometimes we hear about one of our own losing his mind and committing horific acts of violence on our own troops.  These guys are out there laying it all on the line for us and they are not really safe in the green zone. 

     Taking that a step further, we are openning ourselves up to a situation that would create a criminal out of a suffering combat Veteran.  I am quite sure there are very few military men or women that deploy with the idea of hurting fellow troops.  Although, if we continue to deploy troops that are already suffering from PTSD into a warzone, we as a nation open ourselves up to a Darwins grab bag of possiblities.  As of now the numbers being reported are shocking, up to 35% of our troops returning from the Sandbox and the Stan are suffering from PTSD.  With the stigma and pressure being applied I fear that those numbers are actually higher.  With the tour counts exceeding 3 or more, I am even more concerned we are returning damaged troops to the front lines.

     There are qualities that our fighting men and women possess that make them such an overwhelmingly powerful force.  The refusal to accept defeat or surrender make them such a fierce adversary.  If you could imagine fighting a supremely armed and trained opponent that simply refused to quit!  How would you deal with that?  That is the essence of our success.  Troops in combat don't fight for the flag or country, they fight for the man next to them.  Thats how it is, thats how it should be.  What if that soldier next to you was in some way compromised?  So afraid of admitting something was wrong that they would rather face dying than disgrace.  Thats not the kind of wingman I want watching my back, and no insult intended to that person.  Just really simple theory, I want the warrior to my right to be just as sharp as I am.  I have read stories coming back from the war about people who didn't even realize they were effected until a situation required them to act and they froze.  In combat hesitation causes loss of life. 

    Its not fair that we place people in harms way who are not in battle ready condition.  Its not fair to them and its not fair to those who trust in them for their own safety.  From our perspective as citizens of this country and family members of those troops we need to have the piece of mind that we are sending our fellow patriots and loved ones into the fight as best prepared and defended as we can.  The upper chain of command is results driven, not usually too concerned with individual soldiers.  They will preach otherwise, but I have seen how they act and numbers are their primary concern.

     I can hear it now, the terms sick, lame and lazy.  From the perspective of a 18 year old to a twenty something that is not the category you want to be in.  This group of individuals think they are bulletproof and are not in a position to be making the right call when it concerns operational safety.  We as a nation must start paying closer attention to military policy and taking an active role in ensuring those policies are in place and being enforced.  If you are a parent, spouse or friend of a soldier and you notice a change in behavior, it is your duty to address this with them and if they are not receptive to it then take it to a higher level.  There are contacts that can be made to address this type of an issue and I will do the research and have Mac post them to the site.  Doctors can only diagnose what they see, and if a soldier makes the conscious effort to avoid detection then what good can the existing policies do to protect our warriors from themselves and each other?

     Don't let the government have all the responsibilty for protecting the ones you love.  I love this country too, but as we all are quite aware our government doesn't always act in a manner that we would approve of.  Take some action, ask questions and don't stop until you are completely satisfied with the answer you get.  PTSD stigma can and will get soldiers killed.  At the very least it provides a hostile work environment for those who are trying to get our nations bidding done! 

     The word needs to get out beyond this Blog!  We are doing all we can to help those who will come forward, and find those who are lost. That in itself has turned into a full time job.  We need your help and as Americans that is how we do business!  I am fully supportive of the wars we are fighting, I hate it that American troops have to go and sacrifice their lives for what we believe in.  The fact is that they are and we do have to send them to get it done or as we well know the fight will come to us.  PTSD is not a condition that only effects someone else, as the fighting continues PTSD will be coming to your neighborhood.  Ask yourself this, do I want PTSD treated or should I wait until I face a trained military machine in a road rage incident.  It has already happened, and as a regular civilian the chances of getting out of a situation like that uninjured are remote.

Action or regret, which would you rather live with?  Help stop the STIGMA, voice your opinions and watch your troops closely and be ready to act if you detect a problem!

OpPTSD_Jason

     I was taking a much needed break from the computer and what has become an endless journey in gathering support and resources for Veterans with PTSD.  As I stood in my front yard I began looking at a stone I had recently brought back from a hunting trip.  I know this sounds a bit odd but during my mission of healing I have gained a different perspective on a lot of things.  I was pondering the thought of how old this stone might be and how long it had been in the spot I found it.  I then began to think about the fact that this stone had probably been in the same spot since I was born.  Every breath I have ever taken that stone was there.  My journey from an infant to a man had occurred and this stone had remained unchanged and unmoved for all that time.  I started thinking about the events that caused my PTSD and how the stone had just layed in wait.  The two trends of thought merged in my mind.  The stone would still be in that spot had I not moved it, and PTSD would still be running my life had I not acted upon it to stop it.  I think I will visit that stone everyday for at least a moment to remind me of how my actions effect my healing.  I need it because although I am on my way I am not completely free of PTSD and the symptoms it creates.

     We all have a part to play in our lives, some choose to allow others to direct their paths.  Some choose to allow circumstances to decide what their reality is.  I have allowed both of these to occur at some time in my life.  Letting other people or circumstances choose your path is a very risky and potentially destructive course of action.  Be empowered to make your own decisions, then have the courage to face each day with the knowledge that your life is yours to live and protect.  Don't let destructive people or circumstances make your life something you aren't happy with.  Change is not always easy and it may even seem scary, but the fact you are reading this particular message tells me you are looking for an answer to a problem.  In any case I think I would choose the unknown over misery any day.  Be bold, be empowered and make a carefully thought out plan and execute it.  If you are suffering form PTSD that can be a very challenging process.  Thats why I have created this community and work hard every day to bring resources together to help each person make that plan and provide support in times of need.

     Times are changing, there is a movement of support and acceptance occurring right now.  Never has there been a better time to break the cycle of misery then right now.  Don't allow PTSD to lay in wait like a stone in your life, it won't move, look away, blink or forget.  You have to take action to make a change and there is no better time and place then right here and right now.  Is there a one size fits all cure?  No, not that I am aware of right now.  Does that discourage me?  No, it makes me want to dig a little deeper and continue the quest for answers.  I do know this, there are a tremendous amount of skilled and compassionate people working fevorishly to discover the best solution to our problem.  That being said, I still believe that making the decision to put a stop to victimhood is one of the best healing techniques I have found.  Self awareness is another technique I use, be aware of your reactions and maintain an inner dialog with yourself.  A dialog of self assurance and confidence.  Make apologies when you go too far with the anger.  Stop practicing avoidance of situations gradually and give your self the room to make mistakes.  The point is, stop doing the same thing and expecting different results.  Educate yourself and encourage those around you to get that education as well.  Set yourself up a team of supporters.  If you are alone, we are here and that is our purpose.  Welcome to OperationPTSD, we understand what the problem is.

Jason

OperationPTSD